Every summer, I find myself living out of a small suitcase and crashing on my sister’s couch for a prolonged period; and while I’m there, my sister and her roommate spend a good chunk of their weekday evenings watching reality television. With the exception of “Dating in the Dark,” which has a somewhat unique concept, I never really know what they’re watching. (I usually assume it’s some season or spin-off of “The Bachelor.”) Either way, the contestants try to achieve the same goals time and time again: looking for “love,” winning some money, or choosing between that warm sappy heart-tingling feeling and cold hard cash.
First of all, I don’t understand why it always has to be one or the other. Why do you have to pick between the girl of your dreams (forget the fact you only met her on set two months ago) and $250,000? The choice is just a formality. If you go with “love,” you split the money anyway. Regardless, reality TV did get one thing right: when it comes down to it, everything has roots in love and money.
Many of my decisions are influenced either by my relationship with a person or by my career aspirations. Anything in between is just human nature. For example, I often find myself having to choose between doing work and going out with friends. I am usually forced to choose one, and I frequently pick work. Unfortunately, I quickly discovered that continuously being responsible can burn you out much faster than if you took a break every once in a while.
I suppose the key is to find a balance, and I guess it helps if you can find work that you’re really passionate about.